Amigos naturales. (Cuento corto)

Por: Federico Hernández Ruiz

 
No hay duda, soy amigo de las hojas de los arboles y del viento que las hace mecerse. Cuando el viento llega invitando a las hojas a volar, veo como ellas se desprenden y viajan. Revolotean dando giros, maromas y saltos sin importar su destino.
Si estoy ahí comparto su juego. Viajo con ellas alrededor de los arboles, voy de un lado a otro libre sin destino y comparto con ellas esa emoción tan especial que solo puede sentirse al volar.
Platicando con mi hija, yo le confesaba que mis amigas eran las hojas y en ese momento saltó de emoción para decirme que de ella sus amigos eran los pájaros. “Papá, papá, nuestro amigos juegan juntos, vuelan juntos” me decía con gran entusiasmo.
Desde entonces mi hija y yo nos asomamos juntos frente a la ventana y encontramos a nuestros amigos ahí, paraditos, quietos a veces y en otras ocasiones revoloteando por todos lados. ¡Sí que se llevan muy bien! Van y vienen libres. Van y vienen solos, no nos necesitan para llevarse tan bien ni nosotros los necesitamos a ellos pero cuando todos estamos juntos es maravilloso. Corremos y salimos al jardín, sonreímos y alzamos los brazos para sentir el sol en la cara y con ello sentimos las sombras que se provocan cada vez que revolotean nuestros amigos y celebramos que estamos ahí, libres.

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#kids story #cuento #cuentoinfantil #idocare4 #fedehndz

D.R. © Federico Hernández Ruiz, Capulines 101A-2 EL Pinar Jurica. Querétaro. Querétaro. Mexico, 76100, primera publicación 2016

Neuromia (Cuento corto)

Por: Federico Hernández Ruiz / English version at the end.

Era un día como muchos otros, mi hijo y yo explorábamos el camino mientras caminábamos juntos. Cada uno de nosotros, de vez en vez, nos parábamos con curiosidad a levantar una semilla, una hoja, un tallo, un pedazo de vidrio. Así seguimos nuestro andar compartiendo nuestros efímeros hallazgos y sonrisas.

De repente, mi hijo hizo un alto total y se quedó muy atento al suelo para después recoger de él una piedra de buen tamaño y con una apariencia que definitivamente llamaba la atención. Al levantarla y limpiarla contra su pantalón me dijo con una gran sonrisa en su cara; ¡mira papá, mira qué encontré!

Al principio yo no sabía qué era aquella piedra pero al tomarla en la mano, sentir su peso tan característico y fijarme un poco mejor, supe que aquella piedra no era común, aquella piedra que mi hijo encontró era Neuromita.

Era increíble, ahí estaba tirada en el camino como muchas otras piedras en el suelo. Ni más ni menos importante que otras para cualquiera pero no para mi. Tener una Neuromita en mis manos era reconocer mis orígenes. Era poder tener por ese instante un trozo de aquel lugar de donde soy. De aquel lugar de donde todo surgió y que ahora parece tan lejano, tan distante.

Mi hijo me veía fascinado con su cara iluminada, su sonrisa auténtica, sencilla y al mismo tiempo tan rica. Él sabe de aquel origen que nos une, aquel lugar que nos permite tener tanto en común.

Desde entonces, aquella Neuromita nos acompaña en nuestras vidas; esta ahí, pequeña, rosa, con vetas blancas y pequeñas ranuras, su apariencia es impecable y me habla de una paciencia permanente, me dice del tiempo que está contenido ahí y que cada vez que la tomamos en la mano pareciera como que nos transmite su poder y nos llena de vida. A nosotros no nos queda de otra más que disfrutarla, pasarla entre nuestras manos, compartirla entre nosotros.

Es curioso cómo ese poder que tiene la Neuromita se expresa de manera tan singular. A nosotros, ni nos preocupa dónde la dejamos, siempre reaparece y nos llena de su magia recordándonos lo maravilloso que es cada encuentro con ella. Es curioso cómo aquella Neuromita que aparentemente no tiene un solo signo de vida, con ella llenamos de vida todos los momentos y no pasa un día en el que no sintamos su presencia.

A veces cuándo está por ahí y le pega la luz del sol, es como si se iluminará y con ella toda la habitación. Nunca se ve igual y cada arista nos deja ver un paisaje diferente. Son mil mundos en uno solo, es mi mundo, aquel de donde vengo y a donde puedo ir cada vez que quiero gracias a ella y no hay necesidad de cerrar los ojos para viajar a aquel mundo, tan solo se necesita una sonrisa y dejarse llevar por la magia del encuentro para saber que aquel mundo está a nuestro alcance, esta ahí para nosotros y nosotros para vivir en él.

Qué fortuna, gracias a nuestro hijo volví a mi mundo del que parece que nunca me fui. Hoy y desde aquel día, disfruto enormemente de ese origen que es Neuromia y del que ahora puedo hablar y compartir con todos; libre y lleno de gusto.

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#kids story #cuento #cuentoinfantil #idocare4 #fedehndz

D.R. © Federico Hernández Ruiz, Capulines 101A-2 EL Pinar Jurica. Querétaro. Querétaro. Mexico, 76100, primera publicación 2016

No es que la vida sea corta / Not that life is to short

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No es que la vida sea corta. Es que la sociedad se mueve muy lento desde mi perspectiva. Si por ella fuera, permanecería inmóvil manteniendo el status quo por cientos de años.

Sin dudad las personas deben actuar, influir y proponer y nosotros como sociedad; escuchar y actuar. De cualquier manera va a cambiar. La diferencia es que lo podamos vivir nosotros mañana mismo y no comenzar a ver algo que cambia en 20 años.

Mucho ha cambiado, pero no Es suficiente. El conocimiento está disponible, las técnicas están disponibles. Solo hace falta estar dispuesto a usar lo nuevo, lo que no conocemos, por que solo es una herramienta. El propósito ya está dado. Queremos vivir mejor, todos.

  • Reflexión de viernes por la mañana. Federico Hernández Ruiz

Not that life is too short. It is that society moves slowly from my perspective. Society would remain motionless maintaining the status quo for hundreds of years.

Without a doubt people should act, influence and propose. We as a society; we should listen and act. Either way, if we act or not, it will change. The difference is that we can live the change starting tomorrow and not wait 20 years until something starts to move.

Indeed a lot has changed, for me not enough. I should clarify, not enough society wise, economically. The knowledge is available, the techniques are available. We just need to be willing to use it, even if we do not know the technique because it’s only that a technique, a tool and that could be learned. Easier by acting. The purpose is already given. We want to live better, all of us.

  • Friday morning thoughts. Federico Hernández Ruiz

#fedehndz #idocare4 #morningthoughts #reflexiones matutinas

The BOOTSTART Manifesto ᔥashmaurya

So far and after 25 years, 6 companies and about 25 partners, I do know how important are this kind of manifestos’. There is a lot of true in it, and needs a lot of grit, vision to keep learning, to sustain the empowerment and must of all, the joy of doing so.

This manifesto from Ash Maurya is a good one to follow and share.

Federico

There’s never been a better time to act on your “big idea”. And this manifesto will show you how.

1. Entrepreneurs Are Everywhere

While we may look different and speak different languages, the world is flatter than it’s ever been. We are living through a global entrepreneurial renaissance that can be witnessed in the worldwide explosion of university entrepreneurial programs, startup accelerators, and corporate innovation incubators started in just the last 5 years.

We all want the same things and fear the same things.

2. The Persona of the Garage Entrepreneur Has Changed

Entrepreneurs are no longer just two guys in a garage. They can be found in all walks of life. The reasons for this sudden spike can be attributed to:

  1. Rising student debt 
    Student debt in the United States recently crossed the $1 trillion mark. We are still training the next generation to be workers at an ever increasing tuition cost, but good work has gotten harder to come by…More students are instead seeking out entrepreneurial education and experiences while in college (and even high school) — some with aspirations to build the next Facebook, while others simply want to better equip themselves.
  2. No lifelong employment
    With the security of lifelong employment and pensions gone, more people are looking to get in the driver’s seat and take control of their destiny. Side business startups are on the rise.
  3. The need for large companies to innovate or be disrupted
    The pace of disruptive innovation has been accelerating over the last decade, with Blockbuster being the latest casualty in the news. Even previous disruptors are starting to get disrupted by newcomers. This has magnified the increasingly important role of intrapreneurs.

3. There is No Better Time to Start

What has really accelerated the uptake of entrepreneurship globally is that for the first time in history, we all, more or less, have access to the same tools, knowledge, and resources thanks to the Internet, globalization, and technologies enabled by Open Source and Cloud Computing. It is cheaper and faster than ever before to launch a new business, and there is no better time than the present to start.

This represents an incredible opportunity for all of us.
But there is a dark cloud in all of this.

4. Most Products Still Fail

While we are building more products than ever before, the sad reality is that the success rate of these products hasn’t changed much. The odds are still heavily stacked against starting a new business and most of these products unfortunately still fail.

And that’s a real problem.

We pour a lot of our time, money, and effort into these products. Especially for a first-time entrepreneur, these failures can be a real setback both emotionally and also financially.

5. A Dozen Reasons Why Products Fail

Here are twelve reasons we commonly attribute to failed ideas:

  1. No money
  2. Poor team
  3. Poor product
  4. Bad timing
  5. No customers
  6. Competition
  7. Lack of focus
  8. Lack of passion
  9. Bad location
  10. Not profitable
  11. Burn out
  12. Legal issues

6. The Number One Reason Why Products Fail

At the heart of all these reasons is one core reason:
We simply build something nobody wants.

All the others are secondary manifestations or rationalizations of this brutal reality.

Why does this happen? I attribute the entrepreneur’s singular passion for their solution as the top contributor to this failure. This is the Innovator’s Bias that causes us to fall in love with our solution and makes “bringing our baby to life” our sole mission.

But a build-first approach is backwards. It’s backwards because you can’t brute-force a solution without a pre-existing problem.

7. The Number Two Reason Why Products Fail

Failing at something requires starting. The number two reason why products fail is that they never even get started. We spend too much time analyzing, or planning, or making excuses for not starting — we wait to first write a business plan, or find investors, or move to Silicon Valley.

8. You Don’t Need Permission to Start

The world has changed. Going back just a decade, starting up was expensive. Getting software licenses to build your product, or office space to meet with your team, required capital investment. Today, all these things are free.

The question today isn’t:
“Can we build this?”

But,
“Should we build this?”

You don’t need lots of money, people, or time to answer this question. Here’s how…

9. Love the Problem, Not Your Solution

It starts with a fundamental mind shift. Your customers don’t care about your solution but their goals. Identify the problems or obstacles that get in the way of their goals, and you identify the right solution to build.

Having more passion for your solution than your customer’s problem, is a problem.

10. Don’t Write a Business Plan

Business plans take too long to write and nobody reads the whole thing anyway. Create a 1-page business model instead. It takes 20 minutes versus 20 days. People can’t help but read it and share what they think. That’s a win.

Spend more time building versus planning your business.

11. Your Business Model is THE Product

There is no business in your business model without revenue. Revenue is like oxygen. While you don’t live for oxygen, you need oxygen to live. Your world-changing idea is the same.

Before rushing to build, make sure that the underlying problems you identified in the previous step represent a monetizable problem worth solving.

The best evidence of monetizable pain is a check being written.

12. Focus on Time Versus Timing

You can’t control the timing of your idea but you can control how long you spend on your idea. Unlike money or people which can fluctuate up or down, time only moves in one direction.

Time is your scarcest resource. Spend it wisely.

Time-box everything. The power of a deadline is that it comes due — provided, of course, that the world doesn’t come to an end first. Set an appointment with your team to share your results and discuss how you move forward from wherever you end up by the deadline. Set another deadline and go. This is the best way to hold yourself accountable.

13. Not Acceleration, But Deceleration

Optimizing for time does not mean going fast on everything, but rather slowing down to focus on the right thing. Pareto’s 80/20 rule applies here. Your biggest results will come from just a few key actions.

Your job is to prioritize what’s riskiest first and ignore the rest — until it becomes what’s riskiest.

14. Not Faux Validation, But Traction

The number of features, size of your team, or how much money you have in the bank are not the right measures of progress.

There is only one metric that matters — TRACTION.

Traction is the rate at which you capture monetizable value from customers.

Don’t ask people what they think of your idea.
Only customers matter.

Don’t ask customers what they think of your idea.
Measure what they do.

15. Remove Failure from Your Vocabulary

The fail-fast meme is all about embracing failure as par for the course. However, the taboo of failure is so crippling that most people work really hard to avoid, sugar-coat, or run away from failure. This is counter-productive. You need to instead completely remove “failure” from your vocabulary.

  1. Break your big ideas or strategies into small, fast, additive experiments.
  2. Use staged rollouts to implement your ideas from small to large scale.
  3. Double-down on good ideas, and silently discard your bad ideas.

When you do these three things, you aren’t failing, but course-correcting towards a larger goal.

Be brutal with your ideas but have faith in yourself.

16. It’s Time to Act on Your Big Idea

There are no shortages of problems in the world. As an entrepreneur, you are wired differently. You are wired to seek out solutions. All you have to do is channel your attention on the right problem. And you’ll leave the world better off than when you entered it. Isn’t that all that really matters?

Don’t waste this moment. It’s time to dust off the ideas deep in the recess of your mind and take action.

It’s time to reboot, level up, and start.


TAKE ACTION | Get more details or learn more about BOOTSTART.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR | Ash Maurya is the best-selling author of Running Lean, and the creator of the popular 1-page business model format: Lean Canvas. His mission is to help entrepreneurs everywhere succeed.

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Link to original: https://medium.com/@ashmaurya/the-bootstart-manifesto-65b41da6216?inf_contact_key=8bd9818e017bd22f8e8b5f8d2f81040109287bb72446018e790a722e16dc6da0#.pg4zfjtys

Excerpts from OnBeing.org

A long time ago, I decided to get closer to the sources, opinions, voices and curators that I thought were right for me. Being exposed to Krista Tippett interviews have changed my point of view in some cases, in others have enriched my own findings and thoughts. This post serves as a way to point out some resonance of this interview, that in any case, may find another listener who can be benefited by them and the voices within each podcast.

Guy Consolmagno and George Coyne -Asteroids, Stars, and the love of God

Excerpts from the Krista Tippett interview Podcast at On Being

-It’s only human beings that have this curiosity to understand: What’s that up in the sky? How do we fit into that? Who are we? Where do we come from? And this is a hunger that is as deep and as important as a hunger for food, because if you starve a person in that sense, you’re depriving them of their humanity. And being able to feed this, being able to make a person more human…

-Whoever’s responsible for this universe has a great sense of humor, because whenever you’re expecting something, you get what you expect, but from a very, very different angle than the way you were expecting it.

-And so earthquakes and hurricanes are all part of the of science that I’ve studied that explain how “the world,” planet Earth, actually works. And yes, it’s destructive. And yes, it causes this terrible human tragedy. And at the same time, I can marvel at volcanoes, even as I know volcanoes kill people. I can marvel at space images of hurricanes and then also remember that, yeah, that’s destroying cities underneath those hurricanes.

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-…my personal life is built upon the following: I’m a scientist. I try and understand the universe. My understanding of the universe does not need God.

-I think to drag God in when we find that our science is inadequate to understanding certain events that we observe in the universe, we tend to want to bring in God as a god of explanation, a god of the gaps. And we constantly do that. Newton did it, you know? If we’re religious believers we’re constantly tempted to do that. And every time we do it, we’re diminishing God and we’re diminishing science.

-…if God created this universe — “if,” a big-I “If” — why don’t I use my scientific knowledge to reflect upon what kind of god would make a universe like this that I know as a scientist? And when I do — I marvel at this magnificent god. He made a universe that I know as a scientist that has a dynamism to it. It has a future that’s not completely determined. We know that as scientists. The evolutionary process — if you want to take evolution in a very broad sense of cosmological, physical, chemical, biological evolution, this is a magnificent feature of the universe.

-So there is a unity in our scientific knowledge if we search for it. I mean, human life is so rich with life and death, with suffering, with music, and art, and love, and hatred. To limit our human experience to our scientific knowledge is to really impoverish all of us and I’m afraid many scientists do that. Science is the only way to true and certain knowledge; a kind of scientist. And I think that really impoverishes all of human culture.

– FR. GEORGE COYNE 1

Source:

  1. Taken from the transcript for Guy Consolmagno and George Coyne -Asteroids, Stars, and the love of God. September 24, 2015
    http://www.onbeing.org/program/guy-consolmagno-and-george-coyne-asteroids-stars-and-the-love-of-god/transcript/7956#main_content

#Science #god #faith #Onbeing #KristaTippett #fedehndz #idocare4

Design’s contribution to the UK ᔥDesign Council

Great design can change lives, communities and organisations for the better. It can create better places to live, bring communities together, and can transform business and public services. Design is a way of thinking that helps large organisations, small and medium-sized enterprises, social enterprises and charities change the way they work.

Design’s contribution to the UK economy is £71.7bn in gross value added (GVA), equivalent to 7.2% of UK total GVA

Workers with a design element to their work were 41% more productive than the average

The design economy is mostly male (78% of designers) – compared to 53% of the wider UK workforce

In 2013, the total value of exports where design had made a key contribution was £34bn

Visit the complete publication at: http://www.designcouncil.org.uk/sites/default/files/asset/document/The%20Design%20Economy%20executive%20summary.pdf

info@designcouncil.org.uk

http://www.designcouncil.org.uk/designeconomy

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“It is surprising how contented one can be with nothing definite” ― Henry David Thoreau

“I am grateful for what I am and have. My thanksgiving is perpetual. It is surprising how contented one can be with nothing definite – only a sense of existence. Well, anything for variety. I am ready to try this for the next ten thousand years, and exhaust it. How sweet to think of! my extremities well charred, and my intellectual part too, so that there is no danger of worm or rot for a long while. My breath is sweet to me. O how I laugh when I think of my vague indefinite riches. No run on my bank can drain it, for my wealth is not possession but enjoyment.”
― Henry David Thoreau

#fedehndz #idocare4

Percepción -Bertrand Russell

Percepción¹

“La <percepción> parece a primera vista algo perfectamente claro. <Percibimos> el sol y la luna, las palabras que oímos hablar, la dureza o blandura de las cosas que tocamos, el olor de los huevos podridos, o el sabor de la mostaza. No hay duda acerca de los hechos que describimos de esta manera, pero lo que es discutible es nuestra descripción. Cuando <percibimos> el sol, ha habido un largo proceso causal, primero en los noventa y tres millones de millas de espacio intermedio, luego en el ojo, el nervio óptico y el cerebro, no podemos suponer que el acaecer <psíquico> final que llamamos ver el sol tenga mucha semejanza con el sol mismo. El sol, como la cosa en sí de Kant, permanece fuera de nuestra experiencia y sólo es conocido, si acaso lo es, por una inferencia difícil a partir de una experiencia que llamamos <ver el sol>. Suponemos que el sol tiene una existencia fuera de nuestra experiencia porque mucha gente lo ve así de inmediato y porque muchas cosas, tales como la luz de la luna, se explican muy sencillamente suponiendo que el sol ejerce efectos en lugares donde no hay observadores. Pero ciertamente no <percibimos> el sol en el sentido directo y simple en que <parece> que lo hacemos antes de que nos hayamos dado cuenta de la elaborada causación física de las sensaciones. pp 88-89.

“Podemos decir, en un sentido libre, que <percibimos> un objeto, cuando nos sucede algo cuya causa principal es ese objeto, y cuando es de tal naturaleza que nos permite hacer inferencias respecto al objeto. Cuando oímos hablar a una persona, las diferencias en lo que oímos corresponden a las diferencias en lo que ella dice; el efecto del medio interpuesto es, poco más o menos constante y puede ser, por consiguiente, más o menos ignorado. De manera semejante, cuando vemos  una mancha de rojo y una mancha de azul lado a lado, tenemos derecho a afirmar alguna diferencia entre los lugares de donde viene la luz roja y azul. De esta manera podemos intentar salvar el concepto de <percepción>, pero nunca lograremos darle exactitud. El medio interpuesto tiene siempre <algún> efecto deformante; el lugar rojo puede parecer rojo a causa de una niebla intermedia, o el lugar azul porque llevamos anteojos de color. Para hacer inferencias respecto al objeto, partiendo de la experiencia que, naturalmente, llamamos una <percepción>, debemos conocer la física y la fisiología de los órganos de los sentidos y tener una información exhaustiva sobre lo que hay en el espacio intermedio entre nosotros y el objeto. Pero todo el calor y la inmediatez implícitas en la palabra <percepción> se habrán desvanecido en este proceso de inferencia por medio de fórmulas matemáticas difíciles, En el caso de objetos distantes, como el sol, esto no es difícil de comprender, pero es igualmente cierto de lo que tocamos, o leemos y gustamos, puesto que nuestra <percepción> de tales cosas se debe a elaborados que marchan a lo largo de los nervios hasta el cerebro. pp 89-90.

“La ciencia depende de la percepción y la inferencia; su credibilidad se debe al hecho de que las percepciones son las que a cualquier observador le es posible verificar”pp 122-123.

¹ Russel Bertrand, Religión y Ciencia, Fondo de Cultura Económica, tr.Samuel Ramos,1951,México, D.F.

#fedehndz #idocare4 3perception #bertrandrussel #fondodeculturaeconómica #religionyciencia

Our deepest fear

When I read the writing of Marianne Williamson “Our deepest fear” I couldn’t scape the temptation to re-write it as if I were telling this to my son, but then I would be lecturing him, something that does not work. I know him free to choose. Nevertheless, here it is for him. Because this though, one way or another will find him.

Our Deepest Fear

By Marianne Williamson from A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

#ourdeepestfear #careerpath #careerfuture #fedehndz #idocare4 #helpingteenagersfindtheirdreams

Helping Teenagers Find Their Dreams. ᔥThe New York Times

As I’m in to browsing the worlds intelligence, I found this article from 2009 at the New York times” written 

Enjoy!


JOB MARKET  | CAREER COUCH

Helping Teenagers Find Their Dreams

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Q. What, if anything, can parents of high-school-age children do to guide them toward their true professional calling? 

A. Some parents are apt to put pressure on their children about choosing a first career, thinking that it will determine the course of their lives. Yet as adults, we often reinvent ourselves more than once, moving among professions. So whatever your children choose now won’t necessarily define their future.

“I see many teens who jump on the first career track that someone recommends just to avoid being directionless, only to find themselves miserable a few years later,” said Tamar E. Chansky, a child-and-adolescent psychologist in Plymouth Meeting, Pa., and author of “Freeing Your Child From Anxiety.”

Ms. Chansky says it’s best to have conversations with teenagers about their strengths and interests, rather than a specific career, and then to listen to what they have to say. “If the parent is putting out all the ideas, you wind up with the parent’s dream, not the kid’s,” she said.

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You may feel compelled to give career advice because you see particular talents in your child, but parents are more limited by their own experience than they think, said Steve Langerud, director of career services at DePauw University in Greencastle, Ind. As well-meaning as the advice might be, it “doesn’t take into account what’s going to be available to your child in the future,” he said.

“The market is changing so fast there may be careers that exist when a student gets out of college that simply didn’t exist when they started,” he added.

It can be more effective to have children look at themselves functionally. Rather than asking, “What do you want to be?,” pose these questions: “What skills do you have? What kinds of people do you like to work with? In what kind of environment?” This is a way to think about a career without necessarily naming it, Mr. Langerud said. “You describe yourself in a functional way and then figure out what that’s called and if people get paid to do it,” he said.

Q. Discussing the future and potential careers can be overwhelming for a teenager. How do you break down the process so it’s less daunting?

A. Robert Hellmann, a career consultant in private practice in Manhattan who teaches career development courses at the School of Continuing and Professional Studies at New York University, suggested an exercise called the Seven Stories. In it, young people offer 20 examples of times in their lives when they enjoyed doing something and felt they did it well.

“Pick the top seven stories, the ones most meaningful, and you both look for patterns across them,” Mr. Hellmann said. “As a parent, you can help by asking things like: ‘What is it that you enjoyed about this? What do you feel you did best? Why did you do it? What was your relationship in those activities with other people?’ Write down those answers. This gives your child an opportunity to discover for themselves what they are good at and what they want to do.”

Q. How do you steer your children toward meaningful work experiences, internships or mentors?

A. You can certainly help make connections and introduce them to those with advice and information, but your teenager needs to be the one who takes action, said Joan E. McLean, associate dean for academic advising at Ohio Wesleyan University in Delaware, Ohio.

“Part of guiding high school juniors and seniors toward their calling,” she said, “is allowing them to find that calling, to see what best suits their still-developing values and interests.”

If your child wants to be a professional singer, he or she might shadow a singer or a voice coach to see what that person’s life is like, read biographies of singers and talk to those in the profession about the needed education and what they did to build careers.

“That’s the research,” Ms. McLean said. “Then your child experiments, maybe joining a community singing group or participating in summer musical theater. At any step they can change direction. I think finding what you don’t want to do is as important as finding out what you do want to do.”

If you fear that your child is choosing a profession at which success seems highly unlikely — either because of a lack of talent or because it’s unrealistic — bite your tongue, Mr. Hellmann said. “Don’t say, ‘that will never happen’ because you really don’t know that,” he said. “Your child will discover soon enough if they aren’t cut out for what they are choosing.”

Q. What if your teenager has no idea what career to pursue and no desire to discuss it? 

A. That’s the time to back off, Ms. McLean said, because some students just aren’t yet ready to explore questions about their future. “They will figure it out eventually, as long as you bring it up periodically and leave open the possibility of a dialogue,” she said.

Remember that it’s rare for 17-year-olds to know exactly what they want to do in life, Ms. Chansky said. “Help them identify the things they do know about their likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses,” she said. “This will show them they have some information, even if they don’t have it all,” and they can eventually translate that data into potential career pathways.

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